Rape and Responsibility

October 17, 2008

Here’s another post from my blog for my Feminism and Sexual Assault class. My conclusion is a bit polemical, I think, so feel free to critique it. I think these are some very important questions, though.

Discussion in class this week has been extremely interesting, to say the least. Sharon Marcus in particular stirred up a significant bit of controversy with her Fighting Bodies, Fighting Words: A Theory and Politics of Rape Prevention, namely her assertion that women can prevent rape by interrupting the rape script - that is, learning the script and learning when and how to interrupt it. Women can do this, she argues, by acting aggressively, by utilising their “will, agency, and capacity for violence,” things the rape script leaves out by constructing women as passive and subjects of fear, not violence.

The solution seems like a good one, especially considering the statement in her conclusion, “we will be waiting for a very long time if we wait for men to decide not to rape.” Her words ring true: Unless a significant other, daughter, or other woman close to a man is (knowingly) at risk of being raped, the majority of men have no vested interest in ending a problem that keeps men in power by subjugating women through fear.

That said, when Marcus speaks of “a narrative of rape, a series of steps and signals whose typical initial moments we can learn to recognize and whose final outcome we can learn to stave off,” I become wary. The implication is that there are steps to a rape that are, if not identical, then similar, and that women can learn this and thereby successfully avoid rape. Women must disrupt the rape script by becoming agents rather than passive victims.

Is this victim-blaming? Of course it is. The message is that if you’re about to be raped and don’t act, you will be raped because you didn’t act, because you didn’t do The Right Thing. Nevertheless, it’s also possibly the most realistic approach to rape prevention I’ve come across.

With the current state of matters, the best solution may be for women to become violent, assertive, and to utilise their strength. Such a strategy acts as a prevention to both stranger and acquaintance rape. Until the rape epidemic is brought to a halt, it’s an imperfect solution, but a solution nonetheless.

This strategy would, arguably, prevent individual rapes from happening and may even bring down the rates of sexual assault, but it is by no means a solution. Women as a whole, generalised group, cannot be made to be responsible for bringing an end to rape. Men, while ultimately responsible, refuse to be held accountable. I argue, then, that it is feminists’ responsibility to end rape.

If men do not acknowledge their role in ending sexual violence, then feminists must bear the task rather than continue to insist that it is, in fact, the responsibility of men. We’re aware of the magnitude of the problem. Marcus points out that law fails to prevent rape; rather, law deals with rape after it has already occurred. A solution, then, is a push for further education and a firm contestation of rape culture. Men will, in my mind, stop raping women when they’re educated about rape and when sexual violence ceases to be glorified and eroticised.


Precautions, Preventing Rape, and Victim Blaming

September 28, 2008

For my class on sexual assault, I have to keep a blog, along with the rest of the class. We’re supposed to keep them private, so I can’t link you to it, but I’ll share things periodically from there. This is my most recent post.

There’s a lot of talk on the rest of the blogs for this class about what is and isn’t effective in regard to women protecting themselves against sexual assault. Some have argued that an emphasis on self-defense is problematic, where others have supported the idea of women taking up self-defense as a means to protecting themselves. At least one other person has expressed frustration at the lack of options available for women to protect themselves against sexual assault.

I think there’s a lot of differing views, first of all, because encouraging women to protect themselves can take the form of victim blaming. If someone is going to emphasise that women must protect themselves from sexual assault, context and substance are everything. If someone is going to be like the police and tell women they should be locking their doors and windows at night, well they can fuck right off. Not only is this often not helpful, but it indirectly pushes the idea that women haven’t heard this bullshit a million times before. Of course, as was brought up in class, advice like this also insinuates that if only women would follow this advice, or do the Right Thing, they wouldn’t be raped. Lovely, isn’t it?

Women aren’t responsible for protecting themselves or preventing rape; rather, it’s up to men, the perpetrators. That said, though, we still live in a society that condones sexualised violence, and, as such, I can understand women wanting to take precautions - I would. Personally, I think self-defense is a good idea. Telling women they should be taking self-defense classes is a bad one. It seems logical to me, though, that if women learn to fight sexual offenders, men might be slightly more hesitant about committing the assault. I must stress, though, that I by no means mean the responsibility of stopping rape lies in the hands of women. Rather, I think women who want to try to protect themselves should look to learning some basic self-defense, most importantly learning how to utilise the strength they have already. I don’t see what can be problematic about this, but I might be overlooking something as well.

Ultimately, though, as I mentioned earlier, it’s up to men to end sexual assault. Not only choosing not to assault women, but men have to educate other men about sexual assault. There are a number of things men can do, from calling out sexist behaviour to refusing to remain friends with a sexual offender. The list is huge, but that’s for another post, I think.


Sexual Assault & Me

September 23, 2008

Since the new school year began, I’ve been in a class entitled “Feminism and Sexual Assault.” It’s been great so far. I’ve learned a lot more about second-wave feminist approaches to rape and sexual assault so far, and it’s only bound to get more interesting as we get the intro material out of the way.

However, with the interesting readings comes material that’s difficult to read. One reading had us reading about researchers’ experiences interviewing survivors of rape. It was difficult to get through, and somewhere along the line - whether it was the readings or the class or both together - I was triggered.

There’s no point in dancing around the fact: Years ago, I was sexually assaulted. For the time being I’ve distanced myself enough from it that I can explain and examine what’s happened in the past, and possibly offer some insight into sexual assault and triggering. I’ve certainly learned some things, and I hope I can pass the information along.

First, until recently, I’d never even considered I’d been sexually assaulted. Looking back on the incidents in question, though, there’s no doubt about it. So while, at the time, I felt that my “friends” were being assholes and was physically hurt, I didn’t come to think of it as sexual assault until I began taking this course. With that realisation came the process of characterising myself as a victim of sexual assault.

Now, I’ve come to decide - I think - that I don’t want to characterise myself in this way, and certainly not as a “survivor.” What is interesting to me, though, is how I wasn’t exactly tremendously bothered by the acts until I began taking this course on sexual assault. So, in a way, I believe I can go back to how I was before, but in another way, I fear I might not be able to, given my new knowledge about what happened. Nothing has changed about my memories about what happened; rather, I learned to look at what happened differently, and that, in turn, affected me negatively. It’s interesting, to me that events can have more of an impact when you learn to look at them from a different perspective.

I don’t know where to go from here. I spoke about it for the first time yesterday, because I was having a difficult time dealing with it. Now, though, as I type this, I feel fine, although my feelings have fluctuated throughout the day. I’m not being ignorant - I recognise I may very well be bothered by this for a while. I’m evaluating whether I’m fit to be doing feminist activism at the moment as well. Until I feel I can’t do it effectively or it’s affecting me, though, I’m going to keep at it, although perhaps at a more manageable rate.

But those are my thoughts at the moment, although I feel I had more when I began writing this. If you want to analyse this further, you’re welcome to do so. If you’re going to comment with “I’m sorry to hear that,” and the like, though, and absolutely feel you must, please send an email instead. It’s just not helpful for understanding this and I’ll be awkward dealing with it publicly. Thanks.


Women, YOU Can Prevent Sexual Assault (Your Own)

August 30, 2008

Despite the public’s best efforts to tell women how to protect themselves, rates of sexual assault aren’t going down, so obviously women simply aren’t cluing in. Perhaps the solution is to push these messages wherever and whenever possible, like television advertisements repeating over and over. So, here’s are nine tips on how you can prevent your own rape and sexual assault, women.

1. Lock your doors and windows. I thought you were doing this already, but if the police are pushing this advice, obviously it’s not being done, right?

2. Never go out alone at night. If you must, though, avoid walking near bushes, alleys, open windows, or under trees. Rapists are unpredictable and will jump out from where you least expect it.

3. Avoid revealing clothing in public places. Large baggy sweaters and sweatpants are suggested. Especially in bars/clubs.

4. Wear an extremely comfortable anti-rape device right up your vagina. Despite the rumours, these won’t limit you from your usual daily activities in any way.

5. If you live alone, don’t let a rapist discover this. Use your imagination to create a party scene in your living room, like Macaulay Culkin did in Home Alone.

6. Rapists often strike at night, so consider becoming nocturnal. If you must sleep at night don’t wear pyjamas. A space suit is recommended.

7. Don’t wear perfume. Perfume attracts rapists and will draw them out of their natural hiding places, mentioned earlier.

8. Avoid eye contact. Eye contact in body language means “yes.” Invest in a pair of dark sunglasses or constantly look at the ground.

9. Don’t be a woman. Get a sex change. Never mind the Loony Left’s assertions that transgender violence is extremely high. It’s a myth.

And that’s it. Follow this advice and the rates of sexual assault are bound to go down! And never mind your intuition, common sense, or comprehensive studies; these tips are sure to help. And remember, rapists: It’s not your fault the patriarchy teaches you to sexually assault women. Women just need to do a better job of protecting themselves!

Note: If, by some miracle, the sarcasm was lost, then let me assure you this post was written sarcastically. Victim blaming is a serious issue and I wanted to demonstrate how absurd it can be. I don’t know any women who don’t already think they should lock their doors at night, yet this is the only advice police, newspapers, and so on, continue to give out. Like this post, their advice is absurd and unhelpful.


Information on the Garneau Rapist?

August 15, 2008

I’m attracting quite a bit of traffic from people searching “garneau rapist” or something similar, so I’m experimenting with something. This is an open thread for discussion about the rapes in Edmonton and a place where we can (perhaps) provide information about the rapist. This is only going to work if people comment, so please, do comment if you come across this.

The police aren’t helping women, so it’s time we take action. I’m not comfortable sitting around while the police continue to use women as bait until they catch the Garneau Rapist. Use this thread however you wish, but keep the discussion limited to the situation. Comments I feel are unhelpful - such as those that contribute to victim blaming - will be deleted. There are other posts where you can debate.

With an organised and cohesive community, we can prevent any future rapes. Now, please discuss.


Police aren’t doing their jobs regarding the recent sexual assaults

August 14, 2008

Echoing thoughts voiced on this blog, Dr. Lise Gotell, professor of women’s studies at the University of Alberta, and Jane Doe, survivor of Paul Callow, Toronto’s “balcony rapist,” argue the police aren’t providing enough information about the Garneau rapist:

Police have issued warnings saying women should lock their doors and windows when alone. They have provided few details about the attacker, for instance saying he wore a disguise, and refusing to be more specific.

“That does more harm than good,” said Gotell, who maintains the more information women have about the attacker, the better they can protect themselves.

Doe, asserting the Toronto police force didn’t do enough to warn women about Paul Callow, won a $200,000 lawsuit against them.

“The issues I sued on and won on are being exactly replicated in the situation that currently exists in your city,” she told CBC News.

Who says we don’t need the Garneau Sisterhood now?

You can read the full article here


Another Woman Assaulted by the Garneau Rapist

August 12, 2008

Courtesy Vue Weekly

With another attack on a woman (this time in Aspen Gardens), it appears the Garneau rapist still insists on exerting his power over women. According to police, the 68-year-old woman was assaulted while at home, alone. Cue the all-too-predictable warnings directed at women to “lock their doors” and “take precautions.” I think these people need to read some Team Rainbow.

Of the articles I’ve seen on the rapes, though, this one caught my attention. (Note: I’ve emailed and received a reply from Ben Gelinas, the author, and at the very least, he claims he’ll take my comments into consideration in the future.) While the (surprise!) victim-blaming was there, Ben also took to labeling the Garneau Sisterhood’s posters as “threatening” and quoted Det. Melanie Grace as accusing the Garneau Sisterhood of vigilantism.

Say what now?

I realise I haven’t mentioned the Garneau Sisterhood here before, and that’s a terrible fault of mine. From an article in Vue Weekly:

Garneau Sisterhood is a group of fiesty concerned citizens in the Garneau area and the larger Edmonton community who are organizing and mobilizing to catch the most recent serial rapist in the neighbourhood, challenge the culture of violence and reclaim safe spaces for women in their communities.

They sound like a real threat, don’t they? I mean, so much that Ben had to go out of his way to discredit them. I sure don’t know why anyone would want a group going around trying to collect information the police aren’t releasing, aim to stop rape culture, and create safe spaces for women. Oh, the nerve of the Sisterhood. Good thing we’ve got people like Ben and Melanie to warn us about them and to tell women to protect themselves! (No worries, men, rape apologists, and the Garneau rapist, you’re all off the hook. Live how you like!)

In all seriousness, though, we need people like those behind the Sisterhood to take action, and we need to support them. The messages women get bombarded with when women are sexually assaulted and raped aren’t going away anytime soon, and they certainly aren’t helping matters. The messages the Sisterhood puts out help counteract, them, though - from warning men about the rapist to asserting the offenders are to blame, not the survivors - help fight rape culture and, as a result, help women.

I’ve said it before: It is not the responsibility of women to protect themselves. Rapists may commit the action, but the rape culture is to blame, and men perpetuate it. Men are the ones who rape women, and while women also rape men, (and there is same sex rape) it is to a far lesser extent, and something that is not encouraged in our culture the way the rape of women is. We must stop telling women to protect themselves, because it does nothing to solve the issue. Men do not deserve pats on the back for not raping women when they had the chance. This should be expected behaviour, as should working to end rape. Any man who looks for a pat on the back should have his intentions put into question and taught about why stopping rape isn’t about him.

Until more men clue in, though, we’ve got people like those behind the Garneau Sisterhood. If you have any information about the rapes that have been taking place (or maybe just want to offer them some supportive words), you can email them at garneau(dot)sisterhood(at)gmail(dot)com.


Kyle Payne Has Nerve

August 1, 2008

According to an email sent by Kyle himself, he’ll be issuing a public statement on his blog at noon tomorrow (CST).

Personally, I’m not sure why he’s bothering, but it’s a bit difficult for me to judge since I haven’t seen what he’s written. That said, I’m sure I’m not going to be impressed. After all, what can someone who’s sexually assaulted another person honestly say to make the situation any better?

Anyway, I have a lot to say on the matter, but I’ll wait until he actually publishes it tomorrow. Thought I’d give you all a heads-up so you can see it for yourselves when he posts it.


Kyle Payne’s actions show that women are justified in caution around men

July 24, 2008

Here’s my latest piece for The Gateway, the University of Alberta’s newspaper. Props to Amber for giving it a look-over.

Earlier this month, Buena Vista University alumnus and resident advisor Kyle Payne plead guilty to felony-attempted burglary in the second degree and two counts of invasion of privacy. While attending to an unconscious student in her residence hall room, he sexually assaulted her and videotaped and photographed her breasts.

Leaving aside the appalling fact that the guilty plea didn’t include sexual assault charges, there’s something else that’s troubling about this matter. Proclaiming himself as pro-feminist, Payne identifies as a social justice educator, writer, and activist. Not only that, but he’s worked with survivors of sexual violence and says he is—believe it or not—“particularly interested in men’s roles in confronting pornography and the rape culture.”

My first reaction to this news was to wonder how this would affect the perceptions of other feminist men. When someone as seemingly dedicated as Payne commits a crime such as this, it can lead women to question the intentions of progressive, feminist men, and that simply isn’t fair. It’s one thing to sexually assault someone, but it’s another matter entirely to jeopardize the roles of certain members of a movement.

This was my initial reaction, and it’s extremely problematic. Dwelling on how this incident will affect men fails to address the actual issue: the fact that a woman has been sexually assaulted. It’s important to take into account Payne’s alleged beliefs, but not in a way that takes away from the real victims of his crime: women. There’s much that a person can take away from this, but one thing is the seemingly controversial but incredibly true statement, “all men are potential rapists.”

It’s important not to confuse this with what may be misinterpretted as similar declarations, such as “all men are rapists” or “all men want to rape.” What the affirmation means is that rapists aren’t easily identifiable. They aren’t colour-coded, they don’t subscribe to sexist notions any more than most people, and they aren’t noticeably more evil than men who don’t rape. According to one study found in the Journal of Research in Personality, 51 per cent of college men exhibited a likelihood to rape (in accordance with the likelihood to rape scale) if they could get away with it. I’ll bet those men aren’t wearing signs around their necks.

In short, because of the rape culture we live in, women must constantly be cautious around men until they learn to trust them. Given that the victim knows the attacker in 69 per cent of all rape cases, even that trust is a leap of faith to a large extent.

This is not to say that it falls in the hands of women to prevent their own rape—nothing could be further from the truth. Rather, as men perpetuate the problem, it is our responsibility to not only refuse to sexually assault women, but to challenge the culture that condones and normalizes sexualized violence. Furthermore, men shouldn’t expect to get a pat on the back for this kind of work and recognize that women still have every right to question men’s intentions. That’s something that comes with being a member of a privileged group, and a point that needs to be taken away from Kyle Payne’s actions.


“Every Man is a Potential Rapist”

July 12, 2008

I’m sure most of you have heard about Kyle Payne by now. (I’ve linked Renegade Evolution because she’s compiled many of the reactions to this.) I’ve just caught up on my RSS feed (500+ posts to read/scan was interesting) and I came across numerous posts about him.

I really have nothing new to add. It’s terrible. The discourse around how this affects feminist men is interesting, too, and that was one of my first thoughts when I read about the matter. Of course Kyle’s actions affect feminist men, but that’s not the issue. If women distrust me (or, at least, remain neutral by not putting any trust in me), I have no right to complain about that, and I especially have no right to take an instance of sexual assault and focus on how it harms men.

That said, I’m going to write a piece on this for my campus paper. If you have any suggestions for the direction I should take, your advice is welcome. I deliberated for some time, but decided I should briefly mention how some (male) bloggers focused on how this affects them and other feminist men, and how this takes away from the real area of concern, which is, of course, that another woman has been sexually assaulted. In the end, does it really matter that Kyle identified as a feminist and advocated for the things he did? Maybe I’m wrong, but I think it does, and so I think I should write about how women have every right to be cautious not only around “normal” men, but feminist men, as well. It would be an opportune time to discuss rape culture and myths around sexual assault, too, no?

I think, though, ultimately, I need to drive the point across that, to women, every man is a potential rapist. I’m sure I’ll have to spend enough time on that so as not to upset most of the readers who just don’t get it.

Anyway, this was very rambly, and I don’t feel like editing. On that note, fuck you Kyle Payne.